In the past few months of working on creating this idea of a book bar, I’ve had to turn up the heat with my networking skills and get heavy on being a socialite. That means that I’ve had to become chatty-cathy to pitch this idea, get back into Facebook, and I’ve had to turn “it” on to really sell myself. Being a sales person, does NOT come easy, especially when you’re not selling Cutco knives (which are totally cool by the way), but you’re selling your kooky idea of creating a place where you can drink while you read!
In the last 13 years of selling myself, it was usually in the context of a job interview or dare I say it, the dating scene. In both cases, I’d dress to impress and I’d talk about my current job, past history, strengths, dreams, goals, interests, fears, etc. But now that I am selling myself for neither a job nor a second date, I’m finding that I’m getting the greatest outcome when I am not trying so hard. I’m not trying so hard to win the approval of someone else, to spout out my resume, or to care how many Likes I have on my Facebook status. Let me tell you, when you stop building a wall with a certain picture painted on it, there is so much peace on the other side.
Some of you know that I became Christian in the last year (baptized in Long Beach -literally in the Long Beach ocean, okay, the Pacific Ocean if you want to get technical.) I was someone who had no faith for many years and now am a woman of very strong faith. And if you combine trusting in something greater than yourself and letting go of the perfect veneer that you’re fronting, it makes you very vulnerable, humble, but extremely authentic. It’s very scary to step out from behind that wall, and be willing to be seen just as you are. Remove the job, the money, the car, the Coach purses, the Prada sunglasses, and just be imperfect you! -Even coming out to write about my new found faith is admittingly a bit awkward! But so is opening up a book bar!!
I recently watched a Ted Talks video of Brene Brown, an expert researcher in sociology, where she talks about her studies of vulnerability, courage, and fear. Rather than butchering her findings with my attempt at recapping it, I thought I’d let you get a little bit of inspiration from her. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o This video, among other inspiring things and people in my life are what remind me to “dare greatly.” She says that it’s not about winning or losing, but about showing up to fight! And what I’ve found over these past few months is that the authentic-me is actually more likeable than my old Sales Rep-me! If this idea is something you’ve already discovered, then bare with me, I’m slow!! But if you’re like me, and just realizing the power in vulnerability, then cheers, I’ll have a cold glass of beer waiting for you at The Brass Lamp! And if you haven’t come around to this yet and you want to keep your Pradas, it’s all good… I’ll have a beer waiting for you too!
For those of you who click on the link to actually get an update about The Brass Lamp’s progress, instead of the sappy thoughts in my head, I’m glad you did! I’m still waiting to hear back from the bank with an answer on the loan. I should be hearing back from them any day now. In the meantime, I’m starting to work on my Kickstarter video… so please stay tuned for that!
On a different note, while doing Christmas shopping this weekend, I realized that Bath & Body Works repackages their bottles of lotion to make it seem like they are new scents, when really, they are the same overdone scents from the past 6 years! I’m just over White Citrus and anything Amber. But kudos to them for expanding on the men’s collection. Men need lube too! -Heehee, I made a funny!